The Anchor of our Souls

At the end of each year, as the days darken early and everything seems to slow down to reflect, celebrate, honor, and gear up for a new year, I find myself nearly begging God for a word to carry as my banner as I march forward. 

Some years I fight the word, some years I plead for it… and then there was this year. In October, months before it was even on my mind to need a new one, He dropped it on me. Over and over. 

“But Lord,” I wanted to say, “I’m still working on Peace. Remember that word I didn’t want that You gave me anyway? Yeah, still working on staying in it.” 

Even so, He continued to whisper this new theme. A theme that, really, has been there all along. 

It’s been there sure and steady, foundational to every word before it: Peace, FearlessNew Song, Hope, Comfort, Rest, Abide, and Light. None of these life compasses would have meant a thing without it. 

In fact, Hebrews 6:18b-19 says:

Therefore, we who have fled to Him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. This hope is a strong and trustworthy anchor for our souls. It leads us through the curtain into God’s inner sanctuary.

I know, I’ve already done hope (and for any of you who know me well, it’s become a life theme, not just for 2016) clearly God knew it would be the anchor of every word written of my life story.

See what I did there? 

Yes, the anchor’s name is Hope. And Hope’s name is Jesus. The One who tore the curtain so that I could be daughter.

In Him and through faith in Him we may enter God’s presence with boldness and confidence (Ephesians 3:12).

Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need (Hebrews 4:16).

Therefore, brothers and sisters, since we have confidence to enter the Most Holy Place by the blood of Jesus, by a new and living way opened for us through the curtain, that is, his body, and since we have a great priest over the house of God, let us draw near to God with a sincere heart and with the full assurance that faith brings, having our hearts sprinkled to cleanse us from a guilty conscience and having our bodies washed with pure water. Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful (Hebrews 10: 19-23).

The Anchor of my soul

THIS is my anchor. He is my anchor.

Yes, Him dropping the word anchor on me makes me think, What storms are You preparing me for, Lord? Yet, even as I start the question, I know that He’s been my anchor in every calm and every storm before today. And He’ll ground me, guard me, protect me in every storm and every calm hereafter. 

The word simply reveals what has been and what will continue to be.

Here’s the cool thing about anchors:

  • Ships sometimes need to idle and remain out at sea, so they anchor. The anchor holds the ship to keep it from drifting off course during the waiting period.
  • Sometimes ships anchor temporarily so those onboard can swim, explore, fish, play.
  • Ships might anchor to keep sturdy in uncomfortable circumstances.
  • Ships anchor to hold out through a storm, especially if getting to shore is out of the question. Sailors hunker down and wait out the rough weather, trusting their boat will still be on course and they will survive.

One sailor said, “Nothing is worse than being stuck on a boat in high winds for 48 hours or 60 hours [and] not having anchor faith. To reduce fear and be able to sleep at night, you want to know that you have an anchor that will keep you safe” (Sailing Britican).

Well friends, I’m here to tell you that my anchor is the safest one out there. He is trustworthy. I have Anchor Faith. Oh Lord, help me to have Anchor Faith!

Heading into 2020

As we head into 2020, I’m prepared to carry on in the abiding Shalom of last year, armed with the strong and trustworthy anchor of my soul. 

A prophetic word was prayed over me this last year. The prayer warrior said, as she prayed, “I see a rope around you… and God is holding the rope. No matter where you go or what you do, you are secure in His grip. You can let go and trust Him. You can hold to His promises, that even as obstacles come, He has hold of you.”

This was in July… months before God would begin speaking the actual word anchor in my spirit. As the word has begun to grip me, this prayer has returned to me. He was already sowing the truth that I am held, secure, safe, and covered.

Ironically, I was asked to join our worship team for Church for the Sunday before Christmas. There was a new-to-me song on the list: Christ the Sure and Steady Anchor. Naturally, I chuckled. God, you’re good.

As I reflect on 2019 and peace, I see that He really did give us peace in multiple forms. Peace, at last, within the walls of our home. Peace in our marriage. Peace from various obstacles that are now resolved. But He also gave us this peace-which-transcends-understanding in circumstances unresolved. Wayward loved ones whose lives we sadly watch derail. The failing health of friends and family, even the passing into Glory of one sweet former foster child, Mayra. Storms around us which we can’t control. Lying lips, slandering tongues, sparks which light forests afire… peace. Insecurities, doubts, questions… peace. Fear, temptation, selfishness… peace. Peace which doesn’t make sense. Supernatural peace. Always available.

Peace that He, as our anchor, will keep us on course, regardless of the calm or the storm. 

Adoption Summit – Connection and Resources

Join me and 60+ other speakers at the Adoption Summit – FREE to you! Speaker after speaker, topic after topic, all to equip, resource, and encourage adoptive families like ours to live healthy and whole lives in our blended homes.

When we started our foster-adoption journey, I thought we had what it took. I had my degrees in Social Service and Therapy, had successfully worked with families and behavior for years. The hubs worked in a low-income school district with class majority children of single parents or foster. We were informed. Equipped. Enough.

Until we weren’t. We were the only people we knew fostering or adopting (at first), except for a friend who privately adopted. We had NO idea what we were in for. Fast forward over a decade, and our adopted kids are “successfully” launched into adulthood and we’ve learned a TON. Mostly about how much we didn’t know and how much community matters. Since then, we’ve made it our aim to help, support, and encourage other families, no matter where they are in the journey. Birth families, foster families, adoptive families, social service agencies… you name it- if they want to talk, we show up. It helps them, and it reminds US that we are also not alone, crazy, or without hope.

That is why I am so excited and honored to be part of this Adoption Summit! It’s free (or there is a paid upgrade for year-long access) but if you know ANYONE who has ANY connection to adoption, this is for them!! And FREE, hosted by

As one of the speakers, I personally share how to weave your child’s past into strength for today and hope for tomorrow, together.

I know your friends, family, colleagues, or co-workers will love you for sharing this resource with them. It’s HUGE and it’s FREE. So spread the word so we can get as many people helped and resourced as possible, so our families and systems can be HEALTHY together.

*Use this link so they know I sent you 😀

How to LOVE your fost-adopt friends and family:


  • Share awesome resources like this one with them!
  • Offer to watch the kids for a bit so they can have a break.
  • BELIEVE them. Believe the stories they share, the pain and joy they feel, and give them a good hug (not advise).